Love this! Cannot understand why people have an idea that being married would solve all your problems! (Or being thin, for that matter...) Don't know if you've seen the show 'Shrill'? (It's also a book). It was the best thing I watched last year and although it's a comedy, it really made me questioj my own attitides to people's size and whether someone is healthy or not.
Love Aubrey Gordon so much — she helped me tear down my own internalized fatphobia, even against myself, and I'm constantly learning from her. And I wish society saw all families as that — families, no matter the number or makeup of number of parents and/or children, whether it's a widow and a child or a couple with no child or even a single person — they all are families and there shouldn't be one right way to do it.
Well this one was just brimming with good sense. Your parallel between how society views fatness and single parenting is interesting and I am cheering loudly for policies that support all people and children not just the idea of family that had its moment in the middle of the last century. Ditto when it comes to breaking away from our assumptions and unexamined biases.
I was a divorced single mother who had a child before my 19th birthday. I spent a lot of time trying to "get out in front" of these assumptions and biases before others had a chance to shape a view of me and my son that was not accurate. It was especially challenging when we relocated from a small town where everyone knew us to suburban New Jersey where coupledom was the norm as well as a certain level of income that was always higher than mine.
Love this! Cannot understand why people have an idea that being married would solve all your problems! (Or being thin, for that matter...) Don't know if you've seen the show 'Shrill'? (It's also a book). It was the best thing I watched last year and although it's a comedy, it really made me questioj my own attitides to people's size and whether someone is healthy or not.
Love Aubrey Gordon so much — she helped me tear down my own internalized fatphobia, even against myself, and I'm constantly learning from her. And I wish society saw all families as that — families, no matter the number or makeup of number of parents and/or children, whether it's a widow and a child or a couple with no child or even a single person — they all are families and there shouldn't be one right way to do it.
Well this one was just brimming with good sense. Your parallel between how society views fatness and single parenting is interesting and I am cheering loudly for policies that support all people and children not just the idea of family that had its moment in the middle of the last century. Ditto when it comes to breaking away from our assumptions and unexamined biases.
I was a divorced single mother who had a child before my 19th birthday. I spent a lot of time trying to "get out in front" of these assumptions and biases before others had a chance to shape a view of me and my son that was not accurate. It was especially challenging when we relocated from a small town where everyone knew us to suburban New Jersey where coupledom was the norm as well as a certain level of income that was always higher than mine.
Thanks for this post, Rosalynn!
I want to read Aubrey Gordon's book.